Leading people is tough. But, you don’t have to be tough to lead.

Get it all done is the only goal.

Suppose you asked yourself or the leader/manager in your company, or someone whom you know to be a leader/manager about their style of leadership/management.

They might say, ‘I am an assertive leader/manager. I make sure the work is done. I keep a close eye on everyone’s work, and send constant reminders. If anyone fails to do so, it reflects poorly on their time management skills and shoddy work ethics. They are held accountable and reprimanded accordingly.’

On the other hand, if you were to ask the team under the concerned leader/manager. You are more likely to hear the words micromanaging, rude, yelling, angry, impatient, stubborn and probably bullying. You might ask why the low performance? Because no one can put their mind to work in good faith in a hostile environment!

The leader in such a scenario is not able to understand the impact of their emotions on themselves and people around them.

They lack Emotional Self-Awareness. Leaders with low self-awareness will get easily upset, angry and irritated. They would follow-up with negative interactions with most people and will lack healthy work-life balance.

You might have observed at times that some people are bound to ignore the negative impact of their reactions on overall enthusiasm of the team. It is a sign of lack of EQ.

If you can’t understand who you are, you can’t lead others.

Leaders who are highly self-aware are capable of avoiding their negative emotions impacting their performance or their team’s performance. They step away from taking a reactive approach and always choose to respond. They effectively communicate their feelings while seeking to solve tensions in a cooperative manner.

As a matter of fact, a research done by Korn Ferry Hay Group concluded that leaders with high emotional self-awareness created a high energy and high-performance environment for their teams 92% of the time. Whereas, 78% of the time negative climates were created by leaders with low emotional self-awareness!

One of the best tools to start one’s Emotional Self-Awareness journey is journaling. It is a powerful tool for one to reflect, assess, and understand themselves and their emotions.


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